It is difficult for people to think about the idea that negative things are attracted to you by your thoughts and actions. I always remind my friends that fear is a magnet. What you fear, your life will create. At the very least, it disempowers you from thinking clearly and making wise choices.
Complaining doesn’t always come from fear– often it comes from a desire to control something: You want the weather to change to suite you, you hate day lights saving time, someone didn’t RSVP to an invitation. Sometimes complaining comes from a sense of helplessness: Food prices are too high, too many children are starving–we are destroying our planet, it’s too much effort to recycle. The world used to be kinder.
I have a friend who constantly complains about how his cousin doesn’t tell the truth, rips him off, asks unreasonable favors of him and his constant complaining drives him crazy. I’m a life coach, so I make suggestion for how he can stand up to his cousin. He never follows any of them, and consistently complains about the repetition of same ol’ behaviors. I stopped listening long ago.
No one wants to be around a constant complainer—except another constant complainer. My guess is that neither person’s life is working very well—and their supportive friends are dwindling in number.
God grant me the wisdom to know the things I can change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the strength to not complain about anything. How many seconds would it take for you to think of someone with whom you would not trade? It’s hard to complain when you challenge yourself with that question.
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