Many years ago, took a week’s workshop with Jack Canfield. My son came home from Camp, so I missed a day, and it was my turn to share the day I returned to the seminar. My talk was filmed. I gave it my all, everyone clapped and cheered, and Jack asked me how I felt about that talk. I drizzled out a series of excuses as to why it wasn’t better. Jack told me something that changed my life, “Sandy, you are like the Olympic runner who won the race and is angry with yourself because you didn’t break the record.”
Based on our childhood experiences, we become our own judge and jury. Nothing becomes good enough. What does this have to do with being loved? Our secret voice meets a compliment with and excuse. We fail to take in the love. In our minds we are never good enough.
Another issue is that we might have an expectation about how we think we SHOULD be loved. It is like raising the bar each time so the other person can’t succeed.
If you could see all the hardships you have survived, how much love you put in the world even though taking in the love of others rarely happens. You deserve to be loved! I don’t care if you’re kind or loving or angry and afraid; you deserve to be loved. Kinda like saving a snack for later, take compliments, loving statement home and put it into a journal. Every night read your writings and say, “Thanks God for this love that I choose to let inside to nurture me.”
Through this message I send you my love. I don’t need to know who you are, there’s enough inside of me for everyone; I am a lighthouse for God.
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