Perspective is how you see things. Is your perspective about yourself based on outside features of the quality of your being, which is the outside of you? If we could look into a crystal ball and see a picture of the way you would like to be, what would you see in your picture? Would you be thinner, taller, better looking or have different hair? Or can you understand that the outside package is not relevant to its contents? Could you therefore see yourself as compassionate and loving? What you value contributes to your perspective on life. Do you value who you are?
If you don’t value who you are, how can you expect other people to value you? You could decorate your outside package in an elaborate fashion, beautiful enough to attract a relationship. However, unless you feel you have something to offer on the inside, that “right person” probably won’t be in the picture very long.
From, my perspective the only thing keeping me from being all that I want to be is…me! When I am not as kind or loving as I’d wish to be, I think of t as “off,” not good or bad. As in archery when you shoot an arrow and miss the bulls-eye, it is off the mark. “That was off, how could I say that differently next time?” or “That was off, how could I do that more lovingly?”
Like a sailboat going down the harbor, you tack left then you tack right. You correct your mistakes. You don’t stop! You keep going! Maybe something like this writing helps you to change your perspective, thus your actions—and you make it to the end of the harbor.
If you could see how hard it has been so far, how brave you have been, you would pat yourself on the back and say, “Well done!” Lean over—I’ll pat your back if you need another perspective!
This material was taken from LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT THE DOOR (mine) available on Amazon and from sandy@parentingsos.com.
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