**Starting Thanksgiving week, I will add one Sandy’s Wisdom piece a week, usually on Wednesdays.
Think of your life as a play. There are other characters in your play who come and go, and interact with you. You are only responsible for YOUR part in the play. However, others will attempt to vacuum you in to avoid taking responsibility for their part in your play. “The meat is over-cooked.” Defensive choice: “Well, I got distracted by the kids and…..” Adult response: “It did get a little over-done tonight.”
“You made me so angry when you laughed at my serious comment.” Defensive choice: “I didn’t mean to make you angry, I am so sorry!” Adult choice: “That wasn’t kind of me, I apologize.” (Note: no one makes you angry, it is a choice! SW # 30.)
“You’re late! I’ve been waiting for 30 minutes!” Defensive choice: “I’m so sorry, I left too late, the traffic was horrible, and people are just crazy drivers!” Adult choice: “My cell phone was down so I couldn’t call. I’m sorry to have kept you waiting so long, it was totally bad planning on my part.”
You are only responsible for YOUR part in the play. Take responsibility for your choices in an adult way and stop trying to please all others! It’s an impossible quest.
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