Every single one of us has a small child inside. At 81 years of age, it ranges between two and four year old. It represents the best and least of me. It is the part that makes judgments, holds grudges, lies, withholds, feels guilty, compares, focuses on the “what ifs” and keeps me from being whole. Loves, Trusts people, does not judge others, does not compare or withhold and would hug a stranger without the slightest hesitation.
One or the other side is up, like flipping a coin. We choose to live in love or fear.
Being aware that the small child inside exists makes us less vulnerable to our own choices. For example, I asked my young son if he liked my new outfit. He responded, “It’s ok and I like the blue one better.” Fair question-fair answer, and I might get both defensive and annoyed. Why? My small child inside wants everyone to agree with my choice. I didn’t want an opinion, I wanted a compliment. Scott, not knowing I was dealing with hidden agenda, realizes he is in trouble, and doesn’t know why. Given more similar experiences, I would teach Scott to lie in order to please.
Listen to your thoughts, watch your actions that are triggered thus reactive, and realize that if what you say or do does not come from love, then your small child inside is no doubt at work. One side of the coin or the other: live in love or fear. I choose love!
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Scott A. McDaniel photo.
